May is for Moms-Part 3

photo taken 2010.

Here is the 3rd and final part to May is for Moms. This time I interviewed my 4 children.
emma: 11  katie: 13  alec: 16  trevor: 20

1.  What is your favorite thing that you and I do together?
emma: scrapbooking and hanging out
katie: shopping
alec:  going to starbucks
trevor: family dinners

2.  What is something important that I have taught you that you will always remember?
emma: white out is exactly like gesso (to fix errors on her homework)
katie:  how to braid her hair
alec:  ummmm....
trevor:  always tell the truth and everything will be ok

3.  What is your most special memory about me?
emma:  the time you and uncle bob brought me a brown bag lunch to school, when I was in first grade or kindergarten.
katie:  how you love to scrapbook
alec:  going to Starbucks
trevor:  trips to Disneyland

4.  What is something nice I say to you.
emma:  be a sponge and be nice to others and that you'll be great someday
katie:  good morning
alec:  your eyelashes are dreamy
trevor:  always honest with him about my opinion-not nice necessarily, but something he appreciates

5.  How are you and I the same and how are we different?
emma:  same: like similar little things like animals, candy, jewelry/different:  I'm a child and you're an adult, otherwise we are the same
katie:  same: blue eyes/different: our style (fashion, hair, parenting, dealing with problems)
alec:  same: both refuse to be wrong/different: he's blunt with his words, while I'm more reserved.
trevor:  same: both sensitive and emotional/different: he likes football and I don't

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I really found this part in the series interesting, and irritating.

Why did my kids come up with these answers? Why did they take so long to come up with their answers? All the things we have done together over the years, and they remember none of them? And no one answered "I love you" for something nice I say to them?

Crazy! I wonder if I do this again in a year or two, how the answers would change? And what about in 10 years? In 20?

And I have said I love you so many times this week! Are they hearing me???

May is for Moms-Part 2

This is the 2nd part of the 3 part series. In this 2nd part, I interviewed my mom.

1.  How did you feel the moment you found out you were pregnant with me?
Very happy, very excited. I wanted to be pregnant months earlier.


2.  Was I a wonderful surprise or carefully planned?
Carefully planned, but I had to wait longer that I hoped for.


3.  What was my most challenging time in my childhood? Why?
You were a good kid, always smiling and happy. You didn't become a challenge until you started "mouthing off" around 13 years old.


4.  Did you worry more about me as a child or now that I am an adult?
More as a child. That you would get hurt, but you were always with me, watching over me. I made sure no one hit you with a stick and kidnapped you. No worries as you grew into an adult.  You both (me and my husband) have good jobs and can take care of yourselves, so no worries.


5.  What is one thing that you thought was deeply important when I was a baby that you now realize did not matter at all?
My kids always got toys and everything they ever wanted, but I did without. Now that you and your brother are adults, I realize that you don't remember the toys, that you didn't need to have so much stuff.

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May is for Moms-Part 1

Saw this post about Mom's on Not in Jersey, and thought it was a great idea.

May is for Moms: An interview with myself. Next week will be an interview with my mom. And the next week with my girls.

photo from Spring Break 2012. Kids today are 20, 16, 13, and 11.

 



Before you ever even had children, how did you feel about being a mother?

I was not one of those girls who dreamed of becoming a mom. My first child was not planned and I was still in school (college). I was scared and worried and nervous. But the minute he was born, I was fiercely in love and there was no looking back. My husband wanted 4, but told him no way, only 2. But I loved having babies and as each grew into a toddler, I would start dreaming about having another baby. That happened 3 times. Then we decided 4 was enough. We only had 4 hands to hold onto our babies' hands and so that was the perfect number.

 



 Since becoming a mother, what is something that has happened that you never thought would?

I honestly can't come up with a single experience. Every day has been a crazy, chaotic adventure. Many great days, and some not so great. But I would never consider changing a single thing about this life of mine. It's exactly where I'm supposed to be!

 

 

Is being a mother less difficult, more difficult or exactly how difficult you imagined?

It's so much more difficult. Well, let me go back in time. When they were all little, it was hard, but a hard I could handle. It was "don't put that rock in your mouth" and "look both ways before crossing the street" and "who colored on the sofa with the black sharpie" and "come pick up these toys before the dog eats them". Then they hit the teen years and I was so unprepared. It was so hard some days that I just wanted to lay down on the ground and die. Because my heart could not take one more moment. All I could think of was "This is not what my life was supposed to be like" and "what did I do wrong as a mom?" That lasted for about a year. Then I just came to accept that this was part of the process. My kids are just trying to find their place in the world and sometimes they make not so good choices (just as adults do). That all I could do was be there to love them and perhaps guide them, perhaps not (sometimes they do the exact opposite of what I suggest). But I love them fiercely and love to have them near me as much as possible and celebrate with them when they do make great choices.

 

What is your fondest memory of being a mother (so far)?

Every morning and every night. I know that sounds silly, but I enjoy the little moments so much! It's something that I've had to struggle with over the years, but there really are so many beautiful moments every day. A hug, a smile, a laugh. Seeing my kids smile and laugh makes me very, very happy!

 

 

 If your children only learn one life lesson from you, what do you hope it is?

I can't pick just one. I would like them to find their happy place. Find something to do every day that makes them happy. To refuel them during the hard times. I know they have difficult choices to make every day, but they need to have joy every day too. I would also like them to take responsibility for their choices. That if they make a mistake, to realize that they made the choice, and to choose differently next time. And to look at the bad choices as a learning experience.
 

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